WHY?
In the midst of this picture of hope, already people are asking the question of the survivors of the horrors of Cleveland that they ask of victims/survivors of domestic violence:
"Why didn't they just leave?"
I cannot and will not speak for them. I am not them and have not been through what they have been through. Instead: I say NO MORE.
And here is what I ask of you: I ask you to KNOW MORE, say NO MORE, share NO MORE, and ensure NO MORE. Visit www.nomore.org to learn MORE.
This blog is about domestic violence & its impact on the workplace as well as related topics.
Wednesday, May 08, 2013
Wednesday, April 03, 2013
Cosmopolitan Magazine Says NO MORE to Domestic Violence
"Domestic violence doesn’t only happen at home. It spills
into the places we take for granted as safe—schools, stores, salons, or any workplace. Cosmopolitan investigates how relationship violence puts us all at risk…"
This is the introduction of an article appearing in the May 2013 issue of Cosmopolitan magazine (on shelves April 9, 2013). Are you surprised "Cosmo" is taking on this issue? To be honest...I was.
But then I was hopeful. Hopeful because they have a huge reading audience of young women...young women who are not going to hear these stories anywhere else...young women who are not going to get this information another way. Because "Cosmo" wrote about it, they will read it.
And I am hopeful that the tips we give to workplaces, co-workers and friends will be helpful and will perhaps change - or save - lives.
As we say in the article:
What you can be is an advocate: If your company doesn’t
have a policy, ask for one. Don’t wait for something bad to
happen in order to get a work-safety policy in place. Walk in to your manager armed with this article.
To read the article: http://www.cosmopolitan.com/sex-love/relationship-advice/intimate-terrorism or the PDF version: http://bit.ly/ZjkKQv
To text to donate $5 to CAEPV: Text COSMO to 41010
To text to donate $5 to CAEPV: Text COSMO to 41010
To learn more about NO MORE: www.nomore.org
Wednesday, March 13, 2013
WELCOME TO "NO MORE"
On "NO MORE Day" new
national survey reinforces urgent need for increased awareness and education on
domestic
violence and sexual assault prevention
March 13, 2013 – Today, major domestic violence and sexual assault prevention organizations across the U.S. have joined forces with corporate leaders, branding experts, celebrities, athletes and advocates nationwide to launch the first unifying branding symbol (like the pink breast cancer ribbon and the red AIDS ribbon) for domestic violence (DV) and sexual assault (SA), called NO MORE.
NO MORE is designed to unify everyone working to combat these issues in
an unprecedented way – whether their focus is women and girls, men and boys,
teenagers, children, minorities, rural or urban communities as well as corporate leaders from a variety of
business sectors - behind one, powerful brand created to transform awareness
and action.
NO MORE has
been in the making since 2009 and was developed because despite the significant
progress that has been made in raising awareness around these issues, they
remain hidden and on the margins of public concern.
The Public Launch of
NO MORE – “NO MORE Day”
To introduce
NO MORE to the general public, a wide range of supporters including Actor and Advocate Mariska Hargitay, the President and
Founder of the Joyful Heart Foundation, and Ashley Greene, actress and Avon’s mark
Brand Ambassador, are in Washington DC, on March 13, 2013, NO MORE Day to
demonstrate their support for this unprecedented initiative.
Mariska
Hargitay, well known for her leading role as
Detective Olivia Benson on Law & Order: Special Victims Unit,
will urge communities to say NO MORE to domestic violence and sexual assault
during a Newsmaker event in the National Press Club’s Holeman Lounge at 12:30
pm. She will also address the backlog of rape evidence collection
kits (rape kits) nationwide, which is allowing rapists to get away with their
crimes.
Ashley
Greene, another advocate for NO MORE, will announce new data from the “NO MORE Study: Teens and Young Adults,” funded by
mPowerment by mark operated by the Avon Foundation for Women on the grim
reality of dating violence and sexual assault for 15 – 22-year-olds in this
country.
Conducted by
GfK Public Affairs & Corporate Communications, the survey shows an urgent
need for increased awareness and education around dating violence and sexual
assault, with an emphasis on the simple things the public can do to prevent
violence and help victims before it is too late.
According to the study, more than half of young people (15-22 year olds)
know a victim of dating violence or sexual assault, but say it would be hard
for them to intervene or help a victim. Forty percent said they would not know
what to do if they witnessed these crimes. Many report that they want to help,
but they are uncertain how to recognize dating violence and sexual assault and
do not know how to safely get help for victims.
Key findings
of the NO MORE study include:
- 51% of all 15-22-year-olds in the United States know
a victim of dating violence or sexual assault.
- 53% say it would be hard for them to help a victim
of dating violence or sexual assault.
- 40% say that they would not know what to do if they
witnessed a sexual assault or dating violence.
- 1 in 3 young women and nearly 1 in 2 young men say they
do not know the signs of sexual assault.
- 62% agree that talking about dating abuse and sexual
assault would make it easier for them to step in and help someone.
Volunteers
and financial support from organizations and individuals who care deeply about
ending domestic violence and sexual assault, including the Allstate Foundation,
the AVON Foundation for Women, Fifth & Pacific Foundation, Finn Partners,
the Joyful Heart Foundation and the Verizon Foundation helped make the NO MORE
symbol a reality. In addition, representatives from nearly every major domestic
violence and sexual assault prevention organization in the country have
supported the vision for NO MORE’s potential to revolutionize how these issues
are seen by the public.
The following organizations support NO MORE:
·
A CALL TO MEN
·
Break
the Cycle
·
California
Coalition Against Sexual Assault
·
Casa de Esperanza
·
Corporate Alliance to End Partner Violence
·
Futures Without Violence
·
Joyful Heart Foundation
·
Men Can Stop Rape
·
National
Alliance to End Sexual Violence
·
National
Coalition Against Domestic Violence
·
National
Domestic Violence Hotline
·
National Network to End Domestic Violence
·
National Resource Center on Domestic Violence
·
National Sexual Violence Resource Center
·
Resources
Sharing Project
·
Safe
Horizon
·
Sisters of Color Ending Sexual Assault
·
U.S. Department of Justice Office on Violence Against Women
About NO
MORE
NO MORE is
a new, overarching symbol, like the pink breast cancer ribbon and the yellow
support our troops ribbon, that is bringing together all people, organizations
and communities that support ending domestic violence and sexual assault in our
society. It has been in the making since 2009 and was developed because despite
the significant progress that has been made in raising awareness around these
issues, they remain hidden and on the margins of public concern. For more
information on NO MORE, to get involved or to get the symbol, visit www.nomore.org and get updates on Twitter
@NOMOREorg or Facebook www.facebook.com/NOMORE,org.
The
history of NO MORE
The NO MORE
symbol has been in the making since 2009. It was developed because despite the
significant progress that has been made in the visibility of domestic violence
and sexual assault, these problems affecting millions remain hidden and on the
margins of public concern. Hundreds of representatives from the domestic violence
and sexual assault prevention field came together and agreed that a new,
overarching symbol, uniting all people working to end these problems, could
have a dramatic impact on the public’s awareness.
The signature
blue vanishing point originated from the concept of a zero - as in zero incidences
of domestic violence and sexual assault. It was inspired by Christine Mau, a
survivor of domestic violence and sexual abuse who is now the Director of
European Designs at Kimberly-Clark. The symbol was designed by Sterling Brands,
and focus group tested with diverse audiences across the country who agreed
that the symbol was memorable, needed and important.
Tuesday, February 26, 2013
Join Us On NO MORE Day!
On March 13th we’ll celebrate the first official NO MORE Day and hope that you can be part of it!
What is NO MORE? NO MORE is a groundbreaking symbol (like the pink breast cancer ribbon and the red AIDS ribbon) designed to galvanize change and radically increase the awareness of domestic violence and sexual assault in our communities.
The day will kick-off with a launch event where students, survivors, advocates and community leaders will gather to activate this grassroots campaign. Later that day we’ll make an announcement on Capitol Hill and that evening NO MORE will get special recognition at a Washington Wizards’ home game.
While many events will be taking place in Washington, DC, you don't HAVE to be in Washington to join NO MORE Day - you can be anywhere!
Stay tuned for updates on how you can participate in local events, a twitter chat, and for other ways to support for NO MORE on NO MORE Day from wherever you are on Twitter (#NOMOREDay) and Facebook.
If you’d like more information about NO MORE Day to be sent to you directly, or are interested in attending the NO MORE Day festivities, please go to www.nomore.org, go to the contact page and drop a note with the subject line “NO MORE Day." You'll be updated on the latest info!
What is our "Call to Action"? It is very simple:
KNOW MORE. Learn
the signs of domestic violence and listen without judgment to victims/survivors
of sexual assault. Get the facts and know the resources available.
Say NO MORE. Break the silence. Speak out.
Seek help when you see this problem or harassment of any kind in your family,
your community, your workplace or school.
Share NO MORE. Share the NO MORE symbol with everyone you know. Facebook
it. Tweet it. Pin it. Instagram it.Email it. Wear it.
Help to increase awareness about the extent of domestic violence and sexual
assault. Visit the NO MORE Shop at nomore.org.
Ensure NO MORE. Get involved. Volunteer
in your community, or donate to a local, state or national domestic violence or
sexual assault organization.
More ideas for ACTION:
Use your Social Media voice via Facebook and Twitter to THUNDERCLAP IT and say NO MORE on #NOMOREDay 3/13/13: https://www.thunderclap.it/projects/1533
Show your support by joining through Facebook:
https://www.facebook.com/NOMORE.org#!/events/325690754209615/permalink/325690757542948/Share the video PSA for NO MORE:
http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ZQpuODcp6Iw
Participate in a Twitter Chat at 3 PM ET using the hashtag #NOMOREday.
You can
also join the conversation and follow the day's events as they unfold by
connecting with NO MORE on social media at www.fb.com/NOMOREorg and www.twitter.com/NOMOREorg.
We look forward to having you join us as we all say NO MORE to domestic violence and sexual assault on 3/13/13!
Wednesday, January 16, 2013
Success? Or the Economy? A CAEPV Member Weighs In
"NOTHING SUCCEEDS LIKE SUCCESS."
We are all familiar with this saying, and CAEPV
is incredibly fortunate to work with companies on the forefront of dealing with
domestic violence as a workplace issue.
Recently I had a conversation with one of our CAEPV members about an interesting
phenomenon they had noted – a decrease in reporting of domestic violence at their
company.
While
one might consider this “success,” they
had another take on the issue. They were concerned that in this economy, victims
of domestic violence may not report because they thought if any position was “on
the bubble” a victim of domestic violence may be more likely to be laid off. Here are their thoughts:
Since
the U.S. economy has taken a significant downturn in early 2008, the self
reporting of intimate partner violence by employees in our organization has
decreased by an average of 40 %. As an
organization that has led the way in workplace violence initiatives such as
creating and implementing a standalone policy for paid time off well before
state laws were enacted, our team found this concerning. While we certainly could pat ourselves on the
back about our efforts in education and awareness, our instincts told us
differently.
The Bureau of Labor Statistics recently
published a report, Intimate Partner Violence: 1993-2005, using the National
Crime Victim Survey statistics in which they state that intimate partner
violence has decreased 64% since 1993, including 50% decline in non fatal
incidents. (It will be interesting to
see the next report since this is 7 years old and does not include the years of
the economic recession.) The NCVS is a random and anonymous telephone survey of
40,000 US households which asks several questions about crime victimization not
just intimate partner violence. While the NCVS is a self reporting survey, the
FBI’s Uniform Crime Reports collects actual arrest information from 13,000 law
enforcement agencies. The UCR has also reported that overall violent and
property crime has decreased in the last 10 years. It is important to note that the UCR does not
separate intimate partner violence as a category for arrest records and there
is no uniformity in the definition of violence.
Another self report survey of 16,000
adults was conducted for the first time in 2010 by the Center for Disease Control
and Prevention titled: The National Intimate Partner and Sexual Violence Survey.
This specifically addresses sexual and intimate partner violence and stalking.
According to the Executive Summary, more than 1 in 3 women and 1 in 4 men
experienced rape, physical violence and/or stalking by an intimate partner in their
lifetimes. In my opinion, a more revealing study as far
as to the impact of intimate partner violence in their lives.
While we are thankful that are communities
are safer and the crime is decreasing. It
then makes logical sense that, in parallel, intimate partner violence would
also be declining in our communities and therefore in our workplaces.
So should we look at this as a victory of
the victim advocate organizations? Yes, certainly we can credit wider legal and
social agency accessibility, VAWA, and continuing economic mobility of victims.
But to merely rest on our laurels would
be a serious error.
Victims of IPV may still be stigmatized by
family, friends and co-workers and even employers. This may impact their
willingness to come forward specifically in the workplace. With layoffs and downsizing still the norm,
employees may hide their situations out of fear of losing their job. In addition, companies like ours, have
downsized in the service areas that normally are the safety net for reporting
such incidents. For example, HR, EAP and Security Services are the first to cut
back on personnel in a recession.
We therefore must redouble our efforts as
employers to be observant and vigilant when it comes to the warning signs of
IPV. Some of the less obvious signs,
such as deteriorating performance, absenteeism and lateness are often
attributed to a poor work ethic. This
leads to terminating employees after traditional progressive discipline efforts
have failed. While private employers have the absolute right to terminate for
these reasons often in the early stages there can be contributing factors
related to intimate partner violence that may sometimes be ignored.
In addition, we must continue to encourage
government agencies to count IPV incidents including non-fatal crimes such as
harassment and stalking and to implement stronger data collection so we can
evaluate current trends.
January is Stalking Awareness Month and it is
important to note that cyber stalking is yet another arena of harassment for
the victim. With the velocity of advancements in social media combined with technologies
such as global positioning systems (GPS) or tracking, many victims may not even
know they are being watched electronically. It is important to let employees know tips and
techniques outside of the workplace such as keeping a log of activities, never
meet an online acquaintance alone even in a public place, contact your ISP
provider if an unknown person has contacted you through your personal email,
and privatize your social media settings on Facebook and Twitter.
We
thank this CAEPV member for their perspective and for their passion to consider
that the work is “not done” just because something may appear on its face to be a success. We also appreciate their notation of the importance of addressing stalking as a workplace issue.
For
information on how we can assist you with your workplace program, visit our website
at www.caepv.org or email us at caepv@caepv.org. For more on National Stalking Awareness Month, visit www.stalkingawarenessmonth.org.
Thursday, January 03, 2013
January is National Stalking Awareness Month
Do you think that only celebrities are
stalked? In actuality, “regular” people
are much more likely to be stalked.
January is National Stalking Awareness Month. Stalking is a serious issue – and especially
once a person is being stalked at the workplace. Below is the Presidential
Proclamation of National Stalking Awareness Month 2013:
Each year, millions of
Americans face the fear, isolation, and danger of being victims of stalking. At
some point in their lives, 1 in 6 women and 1 in 19 men will be stalked, and
many of these crimes will go unreported and unprosecuted. During National Stalking
Awareness Month, we rededicate ourselves to supporting victims of stalking and
sharpen our resolve to bring perpetrators to justice.
Stalking is a pattern of
unwanted contact that causes victims to fear for their safety or the safety of
family members. It can include implied or explicit threats; harassment; or
nonconsensual communication through phone calls, text messages, or emails. The
perpetrator is usually someone the victim knows. Stalking behaviors may appear
innocuous to outside observers, but victims often endure intense physical and
emotional distress that affects every aspect of their lives. Many feel forced
to move, or change jobs. Tragically, stalking tends to escalate over time, and
it is sometimes followed by sexual assault or homicide.
My Administration remains
committed to building a robust criminal justice response to stalking -- one
that holds offenders accountable, offers protection and support to all victims
of violence, and empowers them to break the cycle of abuse. In January 2012, we
held the first-ever White House stalking roundtable with survivors, law
enforcement officers, victim advocates, and researchers. We have built
partnerships with communities across the Nation to implement anti-stalking
efforts. And we continue to support nonprofit organizations and local, State,
and tribal governments as they develop more effective responses to violence
against women -- including direct services, crisis intervention, transitional
housing, legal assistance to victims, court improvement, and training for law
enforcement and courts.
We are also working to
address the threat of cyberstalking. While advances in technology are making
this crime more prevalent, they can also pose unique opportunities to address
it. Communities are developing new tools that help connect victims to local
services, and State governments are updating statutes to further protect people
from cyberstalking. Through our Apps Against Abuse challenge, my Administration
recognized mobile applications that are empowering people to defend themselves
against dating violence, sexual assault, and stalking.
Thanks to the dedicated
work of law enforcement officials, community leaders, advocates, organizations,
and survivors, our country has made great strides in combating stalking. During
National Stalking Awareness Month, we resolve to keep building on this momentum
until no American lives in fear of this crime.
NOW, THEREFORE, I, BARACK
OBAMA, President of the United States of America, by virtue of the authority
vested in me by the Constitution and the laws of the United States, do hereby
proclaim January 2013 as National Stalking Awareness Month. I call upon all
Americans to recognize the signs of stalking, acknowledge stalking as a serious
crime, and urge those impacted not to be afraid to speak out or ask for help.
Let us also resolve to support victims and survivors, and to create communities
that are secure and supportive for all Americans.
IN WITNESS WHEREOF, I
have hereunto set my hand this thirty-first day of December, in the year of our
Lord two thousand twelve, and of the Independence of the United States of
America the two hundred and thirty-seventh.
BARACK
OBAMA
For workplace resources, please
visit the Corporate Alliance to End Partner Violence (CAEPV) website at http://www.caepv.org.For general resources, please visit the Stalking Resource Center at the National Center for Victims of Crime at http://www.victimsofcrime.org/our-programs/stalking-resource-center
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