tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8694161.post3982260249659269965..comments2023-08-20T08:37:35.759-05:00Comments on Domestic Violence and the Workplace: The Apology OlympicsKim Wellshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/07231689127537151217noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8694161.post-61054266686149972202011-05-19T10:51:06.756-05:002011-05-19T10:51:06.756-05:00Thank you -- all of you -- for your wonderful thou...Thank you -- all of you -- for your wonderful thoughts and comments. So appreciated. Clearly this sparked thoughts (and feelings) in you like it did in me! KimKim Wellshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07231689127537151217noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8694161.post-1271623296361619072011-05-19T10:45:42.565-05:002011-05-19T10:45:42.565-05:00I grew up in a home where "I'm sorry"...I grew up in a home where "I'm sorry" was more prevalent than "I love you" -- but without empathic connection to the context of the why of sorry (mental and physical abuse, infidelity, etc.). It was reactive non-emotional auto-response, like saying "I'm fine" when someone asks "How are you?". I grew up doing the same thing, saying sorry after the fact, but when I finally learned to be of mindful presence and accountable for my every action, then the wrongs could be made right in the light of "sorry." Because you learn from them, adapt and live better with happiness.KWGhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08996429724505279563noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8694161.post-54256174390797060772011-05-19T10:35:27.160-05:002011-05-19T10:35:27.160-05:00This is quite interesting, I've never really t...This is quite interesting, I've never really thought about something like that. I say "I'm sorry" soooo much when I feel 'guilty' for something instead of admitting that I am wrong. I think 'I'm sorry' has become like a crutch term instead of actually admitting when you're wrong. So many people will say 'I'm Sorry' even for things they don't have to say 'I'm sorry' for. I know it bugs me if my friends say something like 'I'm sorry I forgot...' I always think-and tell them you don't have to be sorry for forgetting-like to text me, call or email me if they say something like that. I also find I'll say 'I'm sorry' even when it's not me who caused something but my Dad who will give me a 'silent treatment' if he plans something which he frequently does with me and then the day of he always cancels. If I give him the truth about what he does, he can't handle the truth and he won't talk to me and I'll try to send him an email, or call him and say 'I'm sorry' even though its him and not me...because I guess since he's my Dad, I feel responsible somehow...Sarah Rhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05304419423472530671noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8694161.post-18022638498522134912011-05-19T09:45:38.471-05:002011-05-19T09:45:38.471-05:00MY sister works for a gov't dept here in Cana...MY sister works for a gov't dept here in Canada for a very tyrannical female supervisor. When my sister, who is Bipolar returned to work from a vacation it was to find her own job and her supervisor's had been restructured and her supervisor's had been eliminated.This woman was the most tyrannical unpleasant woman imaginable, frequently taking her rages out on my sister, who suffered in silence. When my sister told me this woman's job was eliminated ,I was relieved.My sister is a wonderful competent person who happens to struggle with Bipolar Disorder and I worried for her emotional health under so much work stress daily. Why do people-men and women alike- think screaming, raging, bullying, even criticising their employees is acceptable workplace behavior?I believe you reap what you sow in this life. She deserved to lose her professional gov't job in my opinion, though m sister seems sympathetic towards her now.Workplace violence and bullying is very real!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8694161.post-64938225236330177812011-05-19T08:37:37.613-05:002011-05-19T08:37:37.613-05:00You are right. It is not easy to admit it when we...You are right. It is not easy to admit it when we are wrong, but when we do, it shows strength, not weakness. That is not the same as saying "I'm sorry" when you hear bad news or say it casually as a courtesy word like please or excuse me.<br />Regarding abuse, it is also psychologically abusive to make someone apologize in order to keep the peace, especially if that occurs regularly.Susanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12046814312664370406noreply@blogger.com